The emotional toll of a divorce can impact every aspect of your life. Some people assume that they aren’t going to have to deal with this in their divorce — especially if they initiated it — but some unexpected losses that come with the end of a marriage can take even those people by surprise.
Most people feel a loss of companionship when a marriage is over. You’re probably accustomed to having someone home when you get back from a trying day at work. Once you divorce, you won’t have that other adult in the picture to talk things over with when you get home.
You may realize that you aren’t going to have your children as often after the divorce. This is hard for parents to accept, but it is important to have a positive attitude about this because the children deserve to have a relationship with both parents. Instead of focusing on how hard this is for any of you, try to make good use of the time you do have together.
The financial loss is another one that some people don’t plan for. Even if you can live off of your income, you might have subconsciously appreciated the fact that your spouse also had an income that you could count on if something happened to you.
You may also lose friends because of the end of the marriage. This isn’t uncommon, but it can be hard to handle when you’ve already lost so much. You may need to find activities you enjoy so you can start to build a new friend base.
As much as you can, try to focus more on the practical side of decisions you have to make when you divorce. You do need to address the emotional aspects of the situation, but don’t let those dictate your actions with the legal side of the split.