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Why mistreating a spouse in divorce is a mistake

| Mar 3, 2020 | Divorce, Firm News |

People in Oregon who are going through a divorce may make the process and outcome even worse by treating a spouse badly. Giving in to the temptation to be rude or unpleasant to the spouse may feel good in the moment, but over time, it will make the divorce more stressful and difficult. In particular, parents should try to get along for the sake of their children.

Some people may phone the other spouse at work or even go to their workplace and make accusations or start a fight. This could start to affect the other spouse’s ability to work and their standing among professional colleagues. While it may seem like the other spouse deserves it, people should keep in mind that this could also affect the spouse’s earning potential and in turn what happens with property division.

When it comes to determining child custody, a court makes a decision that is in the best interests of the child. A parent who has frequent outbursts in court or who is haranguing the other parent may be judged as a poor choice for primary custody. Even a rare outburst can look bad to a judge. People should also avoid getting into arguments with a spouse over social media.

Divorce does not always mean litigation, but dealing with emotions can be one of the most difficult aspects of the entire process. A person who is upset or who feels guilty about the divorce may cause the proceedings to drag on or may ask for too little in an effort to get it over with quickly. It may be best to discuss strategy and what the person expects from property division and child custody with an attorney before participating in a negotiation. The attorney may also assist in conducting negotiations.